“Last night took an L but tonight I bounced back”
We all take ‘L’ (losses) at some point in our lives, some experience more than others and this can be anything from not making a deadline to losing money. One realisation I have come to this year is it’s not about the loss itself its more about how quickly you rebound from it.
Being a person where I take things to heart a lot, I found it difficult to get out of the state of mind where, I feel like a failure because something didn’t work out the way I wanted it to. I remember even at the beginning of this year, laying in my bed on a Sunday afternoon feeling so depressed that I wasn’t where I want to be in life. I felt like the universe was against me. I would see people younger than me on Instagram living amazing lives, going on amazing holidays, driving new cars and in all honesty I felt like “When’s my lucky break going to come”.
I went for a the biggest interview of my life so far in February, I prepped so well I knew the answers to all of the expected questions, I pre-planned my outfit and got there in time. I did all of the things the law of attraction tells you to do but I didn’t make it through to the next stage, I felt like a failure. So I went for another interview which I thought this time is my time, again I didn’t make it through. In my mind I’m thinking its fine my next shot I’ll win. Another opportunity popped up this time I went for it, started my new Miracle Morning routine, visualised myself getting the golden phone call, told everyone I was going to get it. Last week I was waiting to hear back from this job I was so excited I felt like it was my time but, you guessed it… I didn’t make it again.
“There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.” – Oprah
This time I was only upset for about 5 minutes before saying to myself “its fine it wasn’t for me”. Having that mind set and being able to bounce back as quickly as possible is what all successful people do. Here are some examples:
J K Rowling – unemployed single mother got rejected by 12 publishing companies for Harry Potter.
Walt Disney – fired from his job for “lacking imagination” (can you believe it?!)
Steven Spielberg - rejected from University of Southern California School of Cinematic Arts multiple times
Vincent Van Gough – Only ever sold one painting whilst he was alive.
Sir James Dyson - went through 5126 failed prototypes
If that doesn’t give you some motivation to keep going then I don’t know what will. Another aspect of taking L’s is this time frame that we give ourselves to “make it”.
For me I decided that by the age of 25 I need to be working for myself and living a luxury life. So I put a lot of emphasis on this year with me being 23 to get that ball rolling. So not making it through to the final stages of interviews for the third time I was thinking I’m running out of time!
Wake up call - We still have time
Vera Wang started making wedding dresses at 40
Susan Boyle didn’t live her dream as a singer until she entered Britain’s got Talent at 47
Colonel Sanders didn’t start the KFC franchise until he was 62
Reading about these stories definitely made me realise that I don’t need to rush, I will get to where I want to be by taking time and putting 1000% effort into everything I do going forward.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” – J K Rowling
Bounce Back Tips
Read about successful people’s ‘failures’
Remember there is always time
Find a way around the problem
From my last ‘L’ I decided that if I can’t get my own radio show on BBC Radio Nottingham I’ll create my own on Podcast. Details coming soon!
“If your dream job isnt available, create it” – Janelle Brown